?

Log in

Previous Entry

New!

Name/Age/Location: Rachele Morgan. 21. Lancaster County, PA
Child's gender/Age: Hailey Rhiannon. Female. 6months (4-16-08)
Why you feel that raising an only child is for you: She wasn't exactly a planned baby. I hated being pregnant and I don't want to deal with 2 girls ;) My Husband doesn't want anymore kids and is even considering a vasectomy(sp?). We had said if the baby was a boy we'd go for number 2 when they were fully potty trained. I always wanted a boy 1st to protect his little sister, that type of thing. Haha. And I'm sure it's also a major money issue on my Husband's side of things as well. Not having to decide to go to her event or her siblings. Not having to divide ourselves so someone is always there for our children. There's probably other things, but that's the jist.
The pros of raising an only child: Spending all your love/attention/money on 1 little person giving her everything she wants with no regrets or worries.
The cons of raising an only child: Loneliness. Being bratty or over spoiled.

Comments

( 6 comments — Leave a comment )
brightflashes
Oct. 16th, 2008 04:37 pm (UTC)
It's great to see a new member here! I agree completely with the resources going towards one child. I really disliked my pregnancy, too. It was a high risk one, but one that I'm glad I had the first time. But that's it for me.

I want Anya (my 16 month daughter) to have as much as we can give her. I hear that dividing attention is easy once someone becomes a parent of more than one child, but it seems hard for me to imagine. Plus I don't even think my body could handle another one anyway.

Welcome to the community. : )
kissed_n_broken
Oct. 18th, 2008 09:46 pm (UTC)
Thank you.

My pregnancy was just horrible in general. I had her almost a week late and they had to pretty much force her to come out (still delivered naturally).

Overall I think having just one is the best way to go.
(Deleted comment)
kissed_n_broken
Oct. 18th, 2008 09:44 pm (UTC)
Yes that was on of my main concerns, the divided attention. I am happy with our decision not to have any more. She is the light of our lives.
kissed_n_broken
Oct. 18th, 2008 09:46 pm (UTC)
*One not on
goodnite_gracee
Oct. 17th, 2008 03:34 am (UTC)
Pregnancy wasn't difficult for me, but I was almost 39 when I finally had Steven (age 9).

Onlies don't have to be spoiled, but it can be so easy. Steven gets a lot of crap he doesn't need, just because he wants it, but he is grateful for it, so I don't mind so much. We set a lot of boundaries and stick to them. That seemed to be the best key (but that's for when she gets older and realizes boundaries even exist!!)

Welcome, and congratulations on the best toy you will EVER own!

Edited at 2008-10-18 08:38 pm (UTC)
kissed_n_broken
Oct. 18th, 2008 09:42 pm (UTC)
She is definately a lot of fun now that she is doing more things. It's soo exciting seeing her learn and grow I love it!
( 6 comments — Leave a comment )

Profile

raising_an_only
Raising an Only Child

Latest Month

October 2008
S M T W T F S
   1234
567891011
12131415161718
19202122232425
262728293031 
Powered by LiveJournal.com