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I'm an only child, too

I'm an only child. While I think that in some ways I've benefited from this (for example, my parents don't split time/money/love/whatever else between multiple children), ultimately I've always wished I'd had a brother and/or a sister. Being an only child can make things difficult. If your parents are fighting, you have to be the one to listen to both sides, and if your parents fight a lot, eventually you get the feeling that you just have to get away. Also, family vacations can get pretty awkward and uncomfortable at times, as it's just you and the 'rents. I have a pretty good relationship with both of my parents, but even I have my limits.

Also, some part of me thinks that some of my socialization problems may come out of my having never had brothers or sisters around, at least indirectly. Without any siblings to play with, I often had to entertain myself from an early age. Once I discovered video games and comic books, this of course became a good deal easier, though I'm not sure I did myself any favors when I discovered those, as I know I used them as something of a crutch and a place to retreat into. So instead of trying hard (and learning how) to make friends or be around them, I would always come home and play Mario or Zelda or Mega Man, or read X-Men or something along those lines. Sure, I had friends growing up, but honestly it wasn't until high school that I felt like I had friends that I really went out and did a lot with. And although I made lots of friends in college, it's still very difficult for me. However, all that is not to say that I blame my parents (who never had another child) for my uneven social development. They didn't throw the video games or comic books on me, I did that myself. They didn't stop me from making more friends or socializing more in my formative years, I pretty well did that myself. I'm just saying it didn't help not to have siblings around. And it's definitely up to me to keep working on fixing those personal problems.

I think I had more to say, but I've forgotten it all. I'll post to this group again if I remember.

Good group, Kassi. Thanks for creating it and giving the HeadsUp!

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jadaily4484
May. 1st, 2008 07:32 pm (UTC)
Forgot to give my basic bio information. Name: Jarod Location: Little Rock, Arkansas Age: 24
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